Passion, Uncertainty, and Passionate Uncertainty


The worst part of being passionate about something is the uncertainty and fear that comes with it. When you care about something so much, the fear and uncertainty quadruples. I’ve always told people that I’m not competitive – but when it comes to baking, I lose my shit. I want to be the best and I want to work toward my best. If I can’t, or don’t think I will, I feel totally trapped. When I feel professionally threatened, my first instinct is to get nasty and competitive. Lately, I’m trying so hard to manifest kindness and collaborative instincts. My friend Elisabeth always reminds me that “there are never too many good ideas” and that “the world can only get better with more good ideas”. She is my safe place for voicing insecurities and nasty thoughts. We talk each other down and remind one another that “She is never the enemy.”

Maybe it’s just me, you guys, but it seems like we are raised to be competitive with other women and to get nasty with each other. Is that changing? The more we realize the strengths we each have and see that there’s room for all of us At The Top, what can’t we achieve? 

This was on my mind all weekend and I wanted to put it out in the universe for everyone. Do you feel this way? Do you see the tides changing?

Elisabeth also introduced me to this article by Molly Lambert that totally changed my way of thinking.

“Befriend The Other Woman: Always. Seriously. Even if she sucks… Otherwise you will be “jokingly” put into competition with her constantly, and you will be encouraged and generally provoked by some dudes to do this for their entertainment to take focus off the fact that they are in homosocial competition with each other. Befriend her and press your boobs against the glass ceiling together… She is not the enemy. She is never your enemy. The enemy is always any guys who are creating situations that limit the number of females allowed. Get them in the crosshairs and take them down. ”

— Molly Lambert

What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear ‘em! Love you guys, and I promise we’ll be back to pastries again tomorrow. 

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    Lily

    I mostly agree with all of that. There’s always a gray area with finding the best way to interact with people of either gender. I do find that us ladies can be overly competitive with each other when it could be in our better interest to work together in order for both of us to win.
    I think you’re an inspiration to us all and I love seeing your business grow!

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      Angela Garbacz

      There’s totally a gray area. I think it’s just important, for me at least, to be mindful of how I’m thinking and figure out why. I’m just trying to wade through all of this stuff and it ain’t easy. I appreciate your thoughts on it!!!

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